"Whenever you focus your attention on what the other person is doing, you take away your own power. You make yourself weak. In focusing on the other, you try to control things you can't control. For that reason it's an exercise in total futility, inefficiency, and ineffectiveness.
When you focus on yourself rather than on the other person, you vastly increase your odds of being able to enjoy some impact and influence over the relationship problem that bothers you."
Words of wisdom indeed...
Looks like I need to stop focusing on what I cannot control. Sigh...guess life is like that. We waste alot of energy thinking, worrying and fretting over stuff that we completely have no control. I need to go into some cave and train myself on this. Ha...be remote.
I come to realise what someone said about me is very true. When I reach saturation point in my emotion, in order not to be further aggravate, I distant myself from that thing or that person. Sort of a defence mechanism. I shut myself.
On the bright side, for my birthday last week, my darling bought me a bottle of perfume that comes with a little purple bear. Pretty cute (i mean the bear). The scent of the perfume is a little too rosie for me but it isn't too bad. Guess it's growing on me. Then on the actual day, we went to Hard Rock Cafe for dinner. Shared a main course, a soup, a salad, one starter, two drinks and a mud pie. Oh...not forgeting the flowers! Well...I am contented la. No complains whatsoever...
One thing I must say, W has been quite patient with me. I have learnt to appreciate this strength of him. There is this one thing that he does which I am always secretly pleased. It's when he pray for us, for our marriage. It's like this standard yet sincere prayer that he utter for God to help us in our marriage. And he also make it a point to thank God for bringing me into his life.
Guess I just have to focus on these good things that God has put in my life so that the not-so-ideal stuff are overshadowed and become insignificant.
And one more thing....we are confirmed going to MGS this year!! I'm so glad we made it cos he was so unsure about his leave application. Looking forward now to 29 Nov. Heard the response this year is overwhelming. Hooray!!
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Happy belated birthday !!
And W is such a sweetie hor, and amazing patience !!
good for u gal! happy to read this post. you're right, focusing on what is good in your life helps so much. I've been trying that too...
i don't know where I heard or read this, but i always remember this saying: 'troubles seem small when we look at our awesome God.'
I know I tend to slip in this area and focus on what is lacking, what is difficult, what i'm not happy with so I'm trying too, to 'hold on to what is good'.
glad u had a lovely birthday.
looking forward to meeting up on the 5th.
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